Curiosity Killed The Cat...

Or in this case, the relationship.
One of the questions asked most often pertains to where a relationship is going. Be it a marriage that is off the tracks, a new dating partner or a long standing lover, everyone wants to know "where is this going!"

A little curiosity is a reasonable thing. We may be tired of a lover who cannot seem to commit or a husband who cannot decide whether he is down for being one anymore. Its important to evaluate the relationship and its trajectory to ensure that you are not giving too much of yourself or loosing self respect.
Notice how I didn't say "wasting your time"?  That is because each relationship, no matter how long or short, happy or sad is a learning experience and scoff at that all you want but each one is vital to your evolution and journey on the broader level but also the romantic one. We practice EVERYTHING! We practice playing golf, we practice walking before we master it, hell we even practice kissing on our hands before the planting one on another! Why would love be any different?

What happens, however, when our natural curiosity begins to veer into obsession? When we become too focused on the destination we can really slap a big ol' STOP sign on any connection. But how do we know whether we are just idly contemplating the "what if's" or veering into being obsessed?

This is why I have created a list of things to keep in mind when contemplating the pace of a relationship. These are things you want to avoid, remind yourself of or generally keep in the back of your head when it comes to assessing your relationships pace and destination.

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Alright...now on to that list :0)

~Relationships are and should be organic.
What does this mean? It means that just like every plant grows differently, every outfit looks different depending on the person wearing it and every child has their own unique personality, relationships too are not one-size-fits-all!
Just because your best friends sisters girlfriend got engaged after only 6 months of dating doesn't mean that you are doomed to become the crazy cat lady because your boyfriend of 3 years has not yet proposed. Every relationship and those within it move at their own pace and there will be times when your pace may be faster than theirs or even slower, for that matter. Which brings me to....

~Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE!
Any reader that you speak with who is worth their salt is going to advise you to speak with the person you are with. We can certainly help you to understand the path ahead for the relationship but ultimately you need to be able to communicate your wants and needs with your partner. If I have to hear  "but every time I bring it up he gets mad and goes MIA" I may scream. First if you are asking every other week whether you will get married, I would get irritated too, so lay off it for a bit (see my article on becoming too destination focused). If you rarely ask or this is the first time you have asked and they have that reaction? Well then the issue is not whether you will evolve in the relationship but should you.

~Not every relationship SHOULD evolve.
Lets be honest not all relationships are going to result in marriage and not all relationships should. One of the first things I look at when I check into the path for a relationship isn't just where its going but if it is a viable connection that should proceed further. Whether you are involved with someone who clearly doesn't have their heart in the relationship or who treats you poorly understanding that sometimes letting go is better than continuing to push things forward is the best method. Its also the most difficult. Where our hearts are concerned we all tend to get rather obstinate. Doing a status check to see if your relationship is indeed toxic will help you to understand both the connection and yourself better. Relationships should be uplifting, not something which bring you further down.

~Patience is a virtue.
My husband and I have been in each others lives for 8 years. We have been living together for 5 of those years and married for nearly 4 of them. What does this tell you? That sometimes the best things come to those who wait, and nurture them. We didn't always have smooth sailing and there were periods of separation as we each grew, learned a few things and experienced life but we came back to one another organically. If you are too afraid to have moments of separation be it a breakup or pause in the relationship or even physical separation to give one another space this hints at a much bigger issue with the relationship you have with yourself .
Additionally things do take time. Anyone can rush into something and then potentially regret it down the road but taking your time and learning about one another allows you to build a stable foundation so that when times are tough its not flight instead of fight. If you have just started dating someone and already you need to know where things are going its time to get yourself in check. Allow things to unfold and reveal themselves.

~Respect yourself.
This should always be your first priority. If you have been involved with someone for a long time and they still cannot even bother to call you their girlfriend or introduce you to their family its time to have a talk. If you cannot get them to open up or even discuss the topic this gets you back to assessing whether things should even move forward. If they come in and out of your life and cannot be bothered to offer up some consistency then its time to take a break. Live your life, experience your life and if things come back around then you will know that things were meant to do so, but its an issue of timing. If they don't then you will know they were not right for you in the first place.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make in relationships, aside from becoming too  destination focused is to sacrifice ourselves. We cannot make a relationship or another person bigger and more important than ourselves. Our needs and desires are just as important as theirs. While we may not necessarily always be on the same time frame regarding moving things forward the ability to communicate these things is pivotal.

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Tarotscopes 6/10-6/16

 

Aries: 

 

The death card reversed is the card for the upcoming week for those who fall under the sign of Aries. When reversed the Death card is a reminder to accept the changes and endings that are trying to take place in your life. As creatures of both routine and habit we tend to view change or endings in a negative light instead of seeing that with each door that closes another opens. This can be a bitter pill to swallow in the case of our most treasured relationships ending or a job that we depended on ending but each experience is meant to be a learning experience. Rather than holding on tighter or trying to ignore the signs its time to usher in and welcome change. Be brave in the face of the changing landscape of your life and allow new opportunities to take root in your life. If nothing changes than nothing changes; life is not meant to be static.

Taurus:

This week you may feel bogged down by routine and habitual patterns, Taurus! The Knight of Pentacles when in its reversed position tends to signal that you are tired of things being the same. You are feeling the need to inject some newness and fresh energy into your life. In relationships this card when reversed can often signal an imbalance where one partner is ready to commit or happily committed while the other is feeling restless and curious about what is "out there". The sense of boredom may be such that you are prone to impulsive actions designed to bring about a sense of spontaneity and its definitely encouraged that you try new things this week. Keep in mind, however, to still think things through a bit. Rather than throwing caution entirely to the wind make sure you can shake things up and do things differently without necessarily destroying any established and much needed foundations within life. Because this is the suit of Pentacles which often signifies matters within the financial realm be careful that you do not allow your spending to get out of control with this energy following you around this week. This is not a week for risky investments, especially being in the shadow period of Mercury retrograde. 

    Gemini: 

The Ace of Pentacles, when reversed as it is for you this week, Gemini, signals a potential missed opportunity, financial loss or instability where our money is concerned. Perhaps you were expecting a pay raise or were looking forward to a promotion or job change and find out suddenly that you were passed up. This is where not counting your eggs before they hatch is a very important lesson learned. Its best to never rely on the promises of others or what you "think" is going to happen and instead wait until you know beyond any doubt. 

Additionally this week you may find that a flatmate moves out or that you are left holding the bag when your landlord decides to raise the rent. Its important to understand there is an ebb and flow where money is concerned. At its most primal, basic level, money is energy. Its constantly evolving, flowing and changing. So shall this situation evolve, flow and change. Whatever the loss, whatever the blocks that you feel have popped up in your path take some time to breath and see the situation differently. Where can you cut some corners? Do you really need 350 cable channels and to eat out 5 times a week? There are always ways in which you can save money to account for the loss that is likely occurring around you this week. Just be bold enough and willing to make those changes rather than make a bad situation worse.

Cancer:

 

 

The 7 of Wands is all about struggle and competition, typically after some sort of achievement.   Its about defending your ground and making sure that those who would feed off you and your success or attempt to take it from you are not able to gain any ground. It may be frustrating as you realize that once again you are left still having to prove yourself but ultimately those on top only remain on top through their continued effort. Its not about winning something or achieving something we have worked hard for  and then sitting down on our duff while we reap the benefits. Life is rarely runs in that fashion. Nothing tends to bring out the opportunists than the successes of others. I knew someone once who never seemed to do anything for herself, instead she would attach herself to friends and lovers who were generally more successful than her in her attempt to still live the good life while not putting up much work. These are the types of people you may run into this week so be on the look out. Do not squander your hard work. 

With this card its important to understand that blocks put in your path, be them from opportunists, competitors or the sort, are not insurmountable. This card reminds you that sometimes you have to fight for what you want, to stand your ground and remain firm in the face of adversity. Do not allow the "fight" to make you feel as though this is a never ending cycle because its not. Do bear in mind, however, that you will not win every fight nor will you please every person. Be selective in what battles you pick and do not let the opinions of others cause you to doubt yourself. Stand firm!

Leo:

 

 

The Knight of Wands is definitely a force to be reckoned with and this week, Leo, you will have some spark to all that you do. This is a courageous Knight and while the Page of Wands is all about having the spark of a great, creative idea, this Knight is the energy needed to take an idea and bring it into action. There is no one more courageous and motivated than this Knight but sometimes this energy can take hold to such a degree that it leaves little room for those pesky things like practicality, plans and patience. This energy is very much "act now, think later" which while useful at times, when employed too much can be troublesome. Be sure to balance action with thought. 

Your confidence will be soaring this week, Leo, so its important that you tackle anything on that to-do list. If you have been tossing around a creative idea for change to your life its time to act on it. Additionally with this card you can find that change enters your life quickly and takes you a bit by surprise. If you find a new lover comes on the scene this week definitely have fun with this fiery and fun energy but do not necessarily expect this impulsive and highly changeable individual to become settled anytime soon. Often times lovers represented by this energy are very Aries like in their approach towards love. They fall hard and fast but out of love just as fast so they are not necessarily the best option for long term lovers.

Virgo:

 

The 5 of Pentacles certainly is not one of my favorite tarot cards because unfortunately it typically indicates a time when we feel disenfranchised, cut off from others and lacking. Now at its most basic level this week could leave you feeling quite broke. Perhaps you lost a job, the main source of income for your family could be diminished or entirely gone. You could find that your investments were with unreliable sources and now all that money you thought you had saved is no longer available. Regardless of the reason you are likely to find that money is not working in your favor this week. Bills are likely to pile up, kids need new shoes, the fridge may be empty and you are left looking into empty pockets. Because of this we may feel as though we are cut off, that there is no one around to support us and I wish to remind you that while this feeling can sometimes be incredibly strong and seem quite real in truth there is always support. Whether its turning to friends or family or relying on the support available from strangers at food banks, homeless shelters or other groups designed to help those in need. The obstacle tends to reside more within yourself than it does within a true lack of support. Pride tends to get in the way sometimes causing us to miss out on support that certainly is available to us.

On another level this card can sometimes indicate an imbalance between the material and the spiritual. You could have tended more so the material side of life while leaving your spiritual life ignored. Sometimes this brings about a change in fortune such as the aforementioned lack that this card often times indicates that forces you to realize that a life rich only in material life is a barren life indeed. If you find yourself in a spot of trouble this week remember that spiritual aspect of life. Touch in with your higher power and call upon your guides to assist you. They are always there, even if you have ignored them for ages, they will never ignore you.

Libra:

 

The King of Pentacles reversed is a very dogmatic energy indeed. He is controlling, domineering and thinks his way is the right way, ALL THE TIME! This week you may have to try to temper this quality within yourself so that you are not left ticking off friends, family and coworkers with your rather aggressive attitude. Additionally this King when reversed enjoys the finer things of life. You could find your craving for the best food, drink and enjoyment that life has to offer not just amply but excessive. You could some how justify your enjoying these things to excess quite easily and find your health is shambles by the end of the week. Too much of anything is a bad thing so take it easy this week. There is no need to go off the deep end mentally or physically. Temper yourself and be sure that you include others in your process this week and you should be just fine.

If you happen to feel stuck in a rut this week ask yourself how you could potentially end the period of rigidity and get a bit more flexibility in your life. Have you been stuck viewing yourself, your life or a situation in only a particular light? Is it time that maybe you bend a bit and try to view things from another point of view?

If you happen to be attached make sure that you are supportive of your partner this week. He or she may be going through something which leaves them less focused on taking care of you and more focused on the self. Allow them this time and be there to support them as they have supported you countless times in the past.

Scorpio:

The Empress is a wonderful card for the week ahead, Scorpio! She portends a time of fruitful activity, new beginnings, fertility and success. This is very much the card of new beginnings whenever I see them in my readings. It could be that you are about to embark on a new role either in love, life or career. Perhaps you just received word that you are pregnant and are nurturing a life within you or maybe instead you are nurturing a new role in your career through a promotion or new job. This week you will feel a sense of possibility brewing within your life so its important to take advantage of this energy. If you have been contemplating a new start somewhere in your life this card is asking you to trust your intuition and nurture that idea to fruition. Make it your child and bring new life to some aspect of your life. 

Additionally whenever I see this reading in a love related question this spells great things for the relationship in question. Whether an established relationship or a new relationship this is a chance to bring something new into the fray. If you are attached you can experience a new beginning with your lover this week. There may be a sense that you two are connected once again and that the love and lust is flowing freely between the two of you. If you just met someone this card is a lovely wish card for love related issues in the tarot so trust your gut and give the relationship a chance. Even if you have certain misgivings or have been dealt a raw deal where love is concerned trust this connection--it has something to teach you.

Sagittarius:

   

The King Pentacles reversed is a highly dogmatic energy, Sagittarius! Its an energy which is quite domineering and controlling which means this week you could grapple with these tendencies as well.  Rather than upsetting those around you or causing unnecessary tension within your life try this week to temper these qualities. Remember that your way is NOT always the right way and the opinions of others are just as important to the process as your own. Listen to others around you and take what they think into consideration. Not only may you learn something valuable you will vastly improve the state of these relationships because of your willingness to listen and respect their thoughts. 

Additionally this King when reversed tends to enjoy himself some good food, drink and fun. While cutting loose is sometimes just what the Dr. ordered in the case of the King of Pentacles reversed you could find yourself enjoying these things to excess and having no issues coming up with the most ridicules justifications for it. Take some time to enjoy yourself and life but remember that too much of anything is a bad thing, no matter how much you think you have earned it. Rather than making yourself sick or worse temper yourself this week and enjoy in moderation. 

   Capricorn:  

The 6 of swords reversed can indicate a time when you are carrying around a heavy load of baggage from your past, Capricorn. You may feel ready to move on, say from a past relationship and find that the other person is akin to a bad penny that simply will not go away. Your past may constantly come back to haunt you especially in cases of say debt or unpaid bills. You may just want to move on and enjoy peaceful times but these little pop ups are reminders that there is unfinished business in your past and in order to move on and enjoy a smooth ride you have to tend to these matters. We may want to just shove them under the rug but ultimately they will find their way out again so dealing with them now ensures that you can tie up those loose ends and be done with it. 

In regards to love I see a few options where this card is concerned. You could have a new lover on the scene but feel that you are not quite ready or that you have not quite healed from your past relationship. Take the time to do so before bringing the past into the mix. This card often finds us dragging past issues into present relationships which is never a recipe for anything but failure. Additionally it could find you dealing with a past lover who is trying to come back into the picture. With this card showing up for you so close to Mercury retrograde this definitely could be the case for you. Before running into their arms and thinking that all is right as rain take some time to talk with them, to observe them. Are the issues of the past truly part of the past or is this the same person, with the same issues before you getting ready to cause you the same havoc they did before? Assess before you throw caution to the wind!

Aquarius: 

I love the 9 of Pentacles because it is such a positive card of enjoyment and achievement. This is not about instant gratification or sudden wealth rather this is about the security that we work hard to achieve within our lives. This week you will get the chance to see that you have built a rather stable foundation for yourself and your family. You will feel that you can rest a bit and actually enjoy all that you have worked hard for. Perhaps you will take you and your family on a small trip or maybe you will update the appliances in your home. Regardless of how you choose to spend it there is a sense that you do not fear the money you put out this week or the rest that you take because you know that you have worked hard to ensure that you sit atop a very secure foundation. You are the master of your domain and can feel a sense of independence knowing that you have created your life and didn't rely on another to create your success for you. This week you are being asked to enjoy the good life and feel secure knowing that you truly have a blessed life!

  Pisces: 

   

The 6 of swords reversed is a sign that this week the past could come back to haunt you Pisces. Whether a bill that you have been avoiding paying, a lover who just refuses to leave this week you will likely be called on to take care of matters from your past. While we sometimes just want to move on and enjoy a smooth ride these little pop ups are reminders that to do so we must tie up loose ends. Its not always the most enjoyable process but the fact is we have to face things head on and take care of things if we want to truly move on. 

In love related issues I typically see this card portending that a past lover comes back onto the scene or that we are dragging our past into a present relationship. In the case of the former and when combined with us being in the shadow period of Mercury Retrograde its important to proceed with caution. Its important to assess whether they have really changed, if the issues of the past are really part of the past or if they are the same person with the same issues trying to cause the same drama to your life. In the case of a new lover coming on the scene when you have not yet fully healed from a past relationship this too is a situation that requires your caution. If you try to move on too quickly you end up sabotaging a new connection because of the baggage you are carrying around from a past one. Heal and learn the lessons you are meant to so that you can proceed with a clean emotional plate with a new lover. 

In the case of resisting any transitions in life its important that you not kick and scream because you do not want something in life to change. Nothing is static, everything changes and there is an ebb and flow to EVERYTHING. If something in life is changing, if you are being asked to make some sort of transition its time to open your arms and accept what is coming. Not only will doing this help ensure that the transition is not made more difficult by your fighting it but ultimately once we face it head on we find the reality of the situation is far less fearful than we worked ourselves up to believe. 

         

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Finding A Good Reader & Getting The Best Reading

I can recall the first time at the age of 19 that I received a psychic reading (yes, readers have readers too!) after a boyfriend at the time had broken up with me. I was torn, I was desperate and despite the many cards thrown, meditations done or even runic grids there didn’t seem to be much to gleam from my end of things as to whether I would ever see my high school sweetheart again.

Let’s just say the experience was LESS than empowering. I was told that I had an ancient curse on me from a relative whose name began with an M who cursed the women of my family in love. Instantly my heart began to nearly jack-knife right out of my chest and I was filled with instant fear. It never dawned on me in that moment that most all of the women in my family have been exceptionally successful in love—it was a knee-jerk reaction to feel immediate fear and worry.

Thankfully I was also still rational and thinking (semi) clearly so I avoided shelling out untold amounts of money lifting this and I’m sure many other yet to be uncovered curses this ‘reader’ would charge me for. The sad fact is, however, I am hardly alone. If even a reader, someone who knows and has heard it all can have a reaction like that then is it really any wonder why so many are concerned and fearful over trusting readers?

I wanted to compile a few tips that will aid those who are either looking for a new reader for a fresh perspective or those just starting out. These suggestions and information should be used as a recipe-not a prescription for how to maneuver finding a new reader. I would love to hear what other clients and readers suggest to add to this list. The more information we empower others with the more we can ensure that there are fewer and fewer people being duped out of their emotional sanity and money!

1.       Ensure your view of readings is realistic.

Sadly many who come to me like to imagine that with a few deep breaths and several clicks of my tongue I am suddenly given a telescope into the past, present and future of their lives. This is simply not the case. Visions come, yes. Intuition is a mighty powerful thing and not something to trifle with; HOWEVER, it is not like a switch that is flipped. I make it very clear in my bio that I will not pretend I can answer your every question as though life were merely a series of unavoidable and predestined events. I help clients to understand that information is given based on the current path, all of which is subject to freewill and thus manipulation and deviation. Very little is predetermined in this life and an understanding of this will help with creating a realistic idea of just what can be gotten from a reading.

2.       Readings should be participatory.

If you come in and ask “What does Dan feel for me?” my eyes will cross at the sheer magnitude of what you have just asked me to tap into. I’m sure that Dan has felt many things through the course of the connection, some of which predicated upon experiences shared with you (fights, break ups, break-throughs etc.) and some of which are based on past experiences which have shaded his view and behavior within a relationship. Do you see how your answer not only will take hours to be given but likely will cover everything BUT the specific thing you have in mind but hide behind the general question of feelings?

The more you put into a reading the more that you will get out of it. Do you go in, sit down and divulge every single experience that you have had and your thoughts and feelings on why they have occurred and how you think you should fix it? No, because not only do you fail to see the validity of your reader you also waste your money because clearly you have all the answers already. You should, however, understand that those who are genuine readers provide more than just prediction. They want you to understand WHY something is happening and WHAT you can do about it. They want to build a relationship with you wherein you can get the insight you need into not just the royal ‘them’ but also in you. A reading is very much more in line with an intuitive counseling session which is why I call my services Third-eye Counseling.  If you are grappling with something and need insight, say you need to know Dan’s feelings because he cannot seem to give a commitment after 5 years, then the real issue you want to discuss with your reader is the latter, not just how he feels. You want to get to the heart of the matter, especially if time is an issue. If you cannot touch into your internal detector which looking into a reader it might be a sign that you should wait before contacting. Research them, Google them and perhaps even send them email. This is not an invitation to send a message trying to pry information out of a potential reader. Just as you are paid for your job us readers are paid for ours. You can, however, ask how they work, how they would describe their services, how long they have been doing it, their methods and motto’s for their sessions etc. because all of this allows you to both gauge their fluency on the topic but also make sure that they are a good fit for what you are looking for. And readers, like shoes, are not one size fits all.  So SPEAK UP! This is YOUR session so make sure you get out of it what you need. You should not just say your name, your concern and sit silently while someone jaw-jabs your ear apart!

3.       Have an open mind.

This is SOOO incredibly important so please if you are beginning to lose interest I really suggest pausing, grabbing a cup of really yummy coffee and coming back so you are alert and ready. Are you ready? If you come into a reading only wanting to know what is wrong with THEM and never ask for nor have a willingness to hear about what is wrong with YOU then you are missing the boat entirely. First off no relationship struggles on account of a single person. Even in dealing with mistreatment such as back and forth patterns, cheating, lack of commitment or other general disrespect there is a choice on both ends and if you are still putting up with less than hoping for more than you have made a decision as well. A good reading will be a combination of prediction and coaching, period. This is how you learn both what is ahead, what you can do to shift the situation and what impact your own actions, words, behaviors and thoughts are having on the situation as a whole. If you are not willing to hear about yourself then you will never get anywhere with them or with anyone else for that matter because you will likely repeat the vicious cycle over and over and over again.

Additionally please do not come into a session thinking you have absolute knowledge on how they think, feel and why they do something. If in a session with me I will gladly cut our session short so as not to waste your money or my time if you already feel you are convinced of the situation. It begs the question why are you coming in to pay me, then?  Looking for confirmation or understanding one thing. Arguing because a reader dares to tell you that something may not be as you originally thought or had hoped is another. You are coming in to pay someone who has gifts you perhaps have not fully developed (everyone is psychic, it’s a muscle that unused will atrophy) full yet or cannot use on your own situation so give that person the chance to do their job. If you have kids you always remind them to not argue with a teacher or an adult who is trying to help them understand or teach them something (barred any abusive circumstances here this is typically the case) yet people become quite combative and lose that lesson entirely when they get into other real world situations. Practice what you preach (or will when you do have children).

4.       Do not focus on the when’s of life.

Nothing can damage a situation worse than becoming hung up on “when” something is going to happen. Not only does this shade the freewill choices you make and thus messes with any predictive path given but it overshadows the journey which is supposed to be enjoyable. There must be organic evolution to situations and if you are trying to know every detail before it happens you are not allowing or that. By becoming too destination focused and not paying attention to the present your broadcast shifts dramatically and instead of drawing people closer you push them away. Not anyone’s idea of a cup of tea, I assure you. I always let clients know that I provide time frames when they come to me but I do not answer questions predicated solely on time frame. If you want to know if you will see your beloved by 7pm that evening as suggested by him earlier than my suggestion will be to wait until about 6:45-7:30 to see what happens. Not only is life not entirely comprised of fated events the fact is getting that nitty gritty indicates more obsession than it does someone looking for genuine guidance and insight. Surrender and openness are just as vital as other aspects of relationships that are often talked about. Not all things are meant to be seen, please keep this in mind. Whether it’s because you are learning a karmic lesson, they are or there is just a general need for freewill to figure prominently in a situation some things are not answered when asked. This doesn’t mean that the reader is full of crap, a fraud or charlatan but it does mean that something perhaps shifted. If you look at a great many ratings you will see clients who rate a month or so later to report that along with their one star rating this reader time frame didn’t come to pass. Its automatically the readers fault and there is never an understanding that things change, PERIOD. Sometimes one or both players in the situation change the path and things are off course entirely and sometimes life merely intervenes and says “let’s do this instead”. A little understanding is always advisable. I get it, when you are stuck in the throes of emotional turmoil and your heart is breaking you want desperately to be told a concrete date for the ending of this heartache but my motto is to be more focused on the bigger tickets such as “if” a person should come back or “why” the relationship/job has ended. This is where you will really gain an understanding and ultimately the greatest form of empowerment.

Keep these few tips in mind as you go through finding a reader and best capitalizing on your session with a reader. I would love to hear fellow reader’s tips and client feedback! Feel free to comment here or over through my profile here at Keen!

Love ,Sex & Astrology Pt. 4

We are finally wrapping up the series of Love, Sex & Astrology by taking a look into the final 3 signs of Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces. The information provided in this series is invaluable as you navigate new and existing romantic connections. There is no limit to how you use the information and I would suggest you even expand upon it through your own research! For those who have more in depth information such as your lovers Sun & Moon sign you should look up both-this will provide you with even more information on the who they are and how to capture or increase their interest. 

Don't forget this information is valuable when getting more acquainted with you, as well. Understanding our own patterns, tendencies and interests can shed great light into who we are and why certain patterns persist in our love life. 

If you have additional questions or would like to delve even deeper feel free to get in touch by emailing laura@notyourtypicalpsychic.com!

Capricorn: 

Security is paramount to a Capricorn so when you get involved do not be surprised if your financial security is a topic of discussion. Even if they make it seem as though it’s not-the ability to pay for things and ensure that needs are met is a paramount need for the Capricorn males (especially) and females. It’s not that all Capricorns are wildly rich or successful but they do seek stability, at the very least, in the financial realms. The Capricorn male is a provider. He wants to be the major breadwinner-he shows his love and affection through the creation of a stable and secure foundation with a home, IRA etc. 

When dating a Capricorn male expect that he likely will not allow you to pay for anything. Sexually-Capricorns can be difficult nuts to crack. They can be reserved and hold back quite a bit but once they feel comfortable and really let go their tastes vary across the board. They likely will keep their sexual fantasies to themselves but one way to draw them out is by acting a bit naive or inexperienced-even if you are merely role playing. 

Capricorn females are smart with a capital "S"and they are equally crafty. Once they decide to have a man in their bed they rarely have trouble accomplishing that goal. Want to woe or seduce her? As stereotypical as it may seem assure her of the following  things:

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• You understand the way the world works.
• You know people who can help her get ahead with her career and in life.
• You have sincere feelings for her.
• You're not the least bit stingy.
• You'll be there for her emotionally and financially.

Capricorns above all want stability and though they may not be the most over the top lovers-opting instead for a more conservative, practical approach-they are desired mates for long term connections. They are hard workers, worship family and believe in providing a secure foundation. 

Aquarius:

Aquarians dance to the beat of their own drum and in love they sometimes become even more erratic and 'out-there'. Ask an Aquarian what they are looking for and they will reply “I will know it when I see it”. The only consistent about their choice of partners is that each is unique and different-much like an Aquarian!

They do not go for the ostentatious. They could care less that you are able to flaunt a fancy car or the shiniest new gadget. They go for someone with confidence and a quiet arrogance. They deplore those who are critical so it’s essential that you are capable of doing more than merely talking about other people. Aquarians are total suckers for good conversation so knowing how to speak well and on a variety of topics is a must when you are with an Aquarian. 

Though they have incredible instincts they are actually the most naïve of the signs. They always root for the underdog and will be highly active in their community-possibly donating their time to the homeless shelter or kids organizations. Have an altruistic side? Good for you, you are half way to intriguing your Aquarian lover!

Understand that Aquarians distrust those who compliment them too frequently so be sure to save your praise for when it really counts.  Aquarian men tend to go for those who are more dressed down. They understand glamour and can ‘wash up’ nice but they prefer a more low key approach. Though it depends on the person, like most things, many Aquarian women are what are considered tomboys.

Are they faithful? Only if they truly believe that they are in love and see a future with you. Otherwise the answer is a loud-resounding NO! (The only rarely possible exception to this might be if they have their Venus in Cancer, Pisces, Capricorn, or Taurus.).

If you want to seduce them opt for bold and courageous movements. Understand, however, that Aquarians more so than any other signs in the zodiac can separate love from sex. For them you do not have to win their hearts to win a spot in their bed. 

Sex is very important to Aquarians so this is a good way of getting them to fall in love with you. They can become addicted to your sex and find they need to be with you more and more-in a slightly backwards way sometimes the way to an Aquarians heart is through sex. Just make sure it’s good and that you are not a wallflower in the sack. They inherently seek out those who are not shy or inhibited.

As discussed Aquarians prefer those who are confident and bold. A sure fire way to get an Aquarian to run for the hills is to give any idea that you are any of these things:

· Needy

· Clingy

· Lacking a good group of friends

· Too possessive

· Insecure

· Not interested in travel

Pisces:

Oh the great romancers of the zodiac! Known for their way with words, romantic gestures and poetic view of life Pisces are seemingly made for love. Piscean men are typically the more ‘down-stream fish’ where as the women have the stronger ‘up-stream’ personality. Both Piscean males and females will worship their lover from afar but typically the women are the only ones who will step up and do something about it while the men will remain back and quiet about their secret attraction. 

To attract the female Piscean make sure you are dapper and have an air of sophistication about you. Nothing gaudy or offensive (including in your conversation) for the Pisces woman; it’s the quickest way to turn her off. Pisces men prefer a very clean and simply look-little to no makeup and clothing that is practical and clean cut. They don’t mind things a bit artsy but prefer a more conservative woman. 

In bed you can be sure that things will be interesting! First both Piscean males and females prefer to keep their sex life secret. They are not known for running around and divulging tons of information about who they are with. They are not also known for being the more promiscuous of the signs, either. It’s not just about principals that they do not bed hop-it has more to do with emotions. Emotionless sex for the Pisces is like a fish without its water. Pisces women are very good at knowing exactly what to do, say and show in order to seduce someone. Though it’s not often a side of them that is discussed Pisceans can be highly manipulative and this is definitely true when they are in love or trying to court you. They are not above a few underhanded tricks or subtle manipulation to get what they want. 

Romance obviously counts for Pisces so do not skimp on candles, romantic gestures or affection. They need to feel loved, supported and even worshiped-just be sure to worship their mind and creativity just as much as you would their body. They will run in the opposite direction if they find you flaky or otherwise superficial. Though known for their loving and compassionate nature you do not want to be on the bad side of a Pisces. If you hurt their heart they will hit you 10 times harder. Try to make them feel dumb and you not only lose their interest you will quickly be shown just how not dumb a Pisces is.

This has been an awesome series for me to put together so I hope that you have enjoyed reading it as much as I have writing it. Though I may not have been the biggest believer in astrology when I first started in this business I can say that becoming acquainted with the art has been a very enriching experience. I encourage all of you, skeptics and believers alike, to delve a bit further. See what your chart has to say about you-I am willing to bet you will be pleasantly surprised!!